070624 TYPES OF ORGASMS – HOW MANY HAVE YOU HAD?
By Lora DiCarlo and posted with her prior permission and, it would appear, heavily reliant on https://www.healthline.com/ for its information.
Can you count on more than one hand how many types of orgasms you’ve had? Not how many times you’ve orgasmed—but the type. If you’re scratching your head, we’ve got some titillating news for you; there are between four and fourteen different kinds of orgasms for people with vaginas, and how many you attempt is up to you.
- Penetration, perhaps with a penis, while using a vibrator or a toy that provides clitoral suction.
- Penetration without a penis, perhaps by using a toy, which stimulates the G-spot, while your partner provides clitoral stimulation with fingers or mouth
During solo play, you may want to try:
- A toy that stimulates both areas at once, makes solo play much easier
- Manual G-spot stimulation using your fingers, in combination with clitoral stimulation through your other hand or a separate toy
COREGASM
Okay, hear us out on this one. Some people with vaginas report having “coregasms,” or orgasms achieved through their core muscles, usually during exercise. Look, if anything is going to motivate us to be more active, we can’t think of a better way than attempting a new kind of orgasm!
Here are some poses that can trigger coregasms:
Boat pose
Eagle pose
Core orgasm
You may or may not be able to experience this unique sensation, but the finish line isn’t the point. The journey of discovery is far more important!
MALE ORGASMS
So far we’ve focused on vaginal orgasms, but we’d be remiss not to mention the differing orgasms for people with penises. Of course, most people with penises will be familiar with the classic penile orgasm, often characterized by ejaculation, but what do you know about the P-spot?
The P-spot has been called the male G-spot and is located inside the anus. It’s a highly sensitive area that can provide orgasms all by itself when stimulated. Refer back to the section on relaxing anal muscles and consider trying digital penetration, or take the challenge a little further and give a small dildo or other toy a try.
People with vaginas know the vulnerability of being penetrated; society accustoms us to this experience and teaches it’s the most common, normal kind of sex between heterosexual couples. But that just isn’t true, and people with penises deserve to experience new, exciting kinds of pleasure too.
BUT REALLY, IT’S THE CLIMB
We hope you’ve got some new erotic inspiration and are ready to check an orgasm or two off your bucket list, but before you go, remember something very important: the journey is always more important the destination. You are not a human orgasm vending machine. Pressing the right buttons won’t magically make you feel a certain way. And, hear us loudly: that’s okay! That’s normal!
While we hope you enjoy intimate exploration, please don’t pressure yourself or get disappointed if you don’t experience a particular kind of orgasm. That just means you know where to place your focus and it allows you to ask for more of what you do enjoy.
3 WAYS A HEALTHY SEX LIFE SUPPORTS GOOD MENTAL HEALTH
More often than not, when we think of ways to positively impact our mental health, pleasure doesn’t quite make the list. While we connect clean eating and daily exercise to maintaining a healthy mind, we don’t always think about sex. Yet, your sex life can be a helpful tool in fostering a healthy mental state.
Read on for ways a healthy sex life can help support your mental well-being:
REDUCES ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION
Now, pleasure isn’t going to heal all of your mental health issues, but it can help. When you have sex, feel-good hormones, like dopamine and endorphin, are released, causing a decrease in negative emotions like anxiety and depression. The release of these hormones also causes feelings of relaxation, and since having sex reduces cortisol, you will experience lower stress levels. Pleasure is a great way to relax and take your mind off of any worries that might be affecting you.
Although pleasure can be beneficial to your mental health, it can’t cure you of all your negative emotions. If you are mentally struggling to feel good or are feeling distressed, then don’t let those negative feelings build up. If you’re seeking mental health support, consider an anxiety treatment online. A secure online process that provides ongoing check-ins and chats can help you cope with whatever you’re going through and find the proper solutions.
MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD
We all know that pleasure can feel great, but did you know that beyond the physical, it can also make you feel better mentally? When you have sex, you are increasing endorphins that can improve your overall mood and sense of well-being, which can lead to higher self-confidence and a sense of self. When you feel good about yourself, you tend to take better care of your health, increasing your emotional well-being. Sex can also act as a distraction from stressful or intrusive thoughts, helping you focus on making yourself feel good.
Sex isn’t only beneficial to your own mood; it can have a positive effect on your relationship as well as your partner. Sex is often viewed as a bonding experience, and if you are having sexual relations with one person it can help strengthen the intimacy in the relationship. Have an open discussion with your partner about what empowers you in the bedroom. Understanding each other will lead to better sex and an even greater experience.
PROVIDES BETTER SLEEP
Sleep in an essential pillar of your overall health. Getting a good night’s sleep can have a major impact on your mental health, as it allows your body to repair itself as well as help improve brain function. During your sleep, your brain is working to process information and strengthen memories, so when you are getting insufficient sleep it can have a harmful effect on you. However, if you’re having a hard time falling asleep then try having sex for a good night’s sleep.
Sexual activity before bed promotes better sex and can help you fall asleep faster. When you reach climax, whether that’s through masturbation or with a partner, the hormonal changes in your body cause a state of drowsiness, and make it easier to go to bed. Also, after sex, stress hormones like cortisol decrease, allowing relaxation to take over. Additionally, if you’re dealing with sleep deprivation then make an effort to improve your sleep hygiene, like making your bedroom a technology-free zone. Sex might not be the answer to a perfect night’s sleep but it sure can improve it.
IT’S CRUCIAL TO INVEST IN YOU…
Who says you need a partner to reap the benefits of a healthy sex life? If having sex with a partner is not in the cards then don’t fret: self-pleasure is just as effective. Not only does masturbation have positive physical effects, like strengthening your pelvic floor and improving your skin, but it can also help you just as much mentally. Masturbation releases dopamine, which provided an intense feeling of pleasure and reward. On top of that, masturbating also puts you in a better mood overall as it helps you feel more relaxed and focused.
If you’re looking to indulge in yourself but not sure how to get started, then consider a product that can enhance sexual pleasure and help you reach an orgasm. For example, an external stimulator is a great investment as it helps increase blood flow to the genitals, and CBD lube will help you reach climax. If you’re into internal stimulation, we’ve got you covered with ergonomically shaped toys for G-spot and P-spot play! Investing in your self-pleasure also helps you feel more connected to yourself and feel more confident in your body.
It’s important to remember that sex isn’t the only aspect of your life that should be prioritized. In order to maintain not only your mental health but your overall health, you should be checking in with all other aspects of your life. Remember, whether you’re having sex with a partner or yourself be safe and have fun!
WHAT IS AN ORGASM?
First things first–what’s an orgasm, anyways? Let’s take a look at the dictionary’s definition.
- orgasm/ˈôrˌɡazəm/noun a climax of sexual excitement, characterized by feelings of pleasure centered in the genitals
Merriam Webster is pretty close, but orgasms are more than just genital sensation. Orgasms are characterized by the rhythmic contraction and relaxation of muscles as a result of stimulation and arousal, and it can happen in several different erogenous zones, not just the genitals.
BENEFITS OF ORGASMS
These powerful orgasms not only feel fantastic, they actually have some health benefits. Quite a few hormones are released during an orgasm, including oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins.
Oxytocin and endorphins, which help lower cortisol levels, are natural stress relievers. This reduction in stress can help you sleep better and reduce inflammation in the skin, making for a clearer appearance. Dopamine and endorphins, two of the “happy hormones” are natural mood boosters and help you relax.
You might also experience pain relief due to the increased levels of endorphins in your system; endorphins are a natural pain reliever.
While orgasms are great, the act of masturbation alone is also great for your health. Pleasure is a journey, not an end destination, and regardless of whether you climax your body and mind will reward you with increased body image and so much more for simply taking time to pleasure yourself. Learn more about the benefits of masturbation here.
Now that we’ve covered the how and why of clitoral orgasms, you might be wondering what they actually feel like.
LA PETITE MORT
Orgasms are sometimes called “The Little Death.” Technically this refers to the period immediately following an orgasm, when your body is recovering from the physiologically demanding event it just experienced.
Clitoral orgasms are characterized by rapid contraction and release of the uterine and vaginal muscles and can last anywhere from 10-30 seconds. These contractions can happen as rapidly as one per second. During orgasm, your heart rate increases as does your blood pressure, which is why your skin may flush.
Many women report clitoral orgasms being fairly localized to the pelvic region and any referred sensations (sensations that are felt elsewhere than the originating source), to be on the surface of the skin. Heightened sensitivity of the entire body and “aftershocks” are also common immediately following a clitoral orgasm.
Giving some extra attention to the clitoris, which developed solely to deliver pleasure, is a gamechanger. While clitoral orgasms are the most commonly reported type of orgasm, there are others!
WHAT IS AN EROGENOUS ZONE?
People with vaginas have multiple erogenous zones, or body and contact points that create pleasurable sensations. Here are a few:
- Nipples
- Feet
- Neck
- Hips
- Butt
- Ears/Face/Mouth
An erogenous zone can be anywhere you enjoy being touched, so this list isn’t exhaustive, but it’s a good place to start. Let’s talk a bit about the kind of orgasm you can have in some of these sensual spots.
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