By Lora DiCarlo and posted with her prior permission and, it would appear, heavily reliant on https://www.healthline.com/ for its information.
Can you count on more than one hand how many types of orgasms you’ve had? Not how many times you’ve orgasmed—but the type. If you’re scratching your head, we’ve got some titillating news for you; there are between four and fourteen different kinds of orgasms for people with vaginas, and how many you attempt is up to you.
- Penetration, perhaps with a penis, while using a vibrator or a toy that provides clitoral suction.
- Penetration without a penis, perhaps by using a toy, which stimulates the G-spot, while your partner provides clitoral stimulation with fingers or mouth
During solo play, you may want to try:
- A toy that stimulates both areas at once, makes solo play much easier
- Manual G-spot stimulation using your fingers, in combination with clitoral stimulation through your other hand or a separate toy
- You may or may not be able to experience this unique sensation, but the finish line isn’t the point. The journey of discovery is far more important!
MALE ORGASMS
So far we’ve focused on vaginal orgasms, but we’d be remiss not to mention the differing orgasms for people with penises. Of course, most people with penises will be familiar with the classic penile orgasm, often characterized by ejaculation, but what do you know about the P-spot?
The P-spot has been called the male G-spot and is located inside the anus. It’s a highly sensitive area that can provide orgasms all by itself when stimulated. Refer back to the section on relaxing anal muscles and consider trying digital penetration, or take the challenge a little further and give a small dildo or other toy a try.
People with vaginas know the vulnerability of being penetrated; society accustoms us to this experience and teaches it’s the most common, normal kind of sex between heterosexual couples. But that just isn’t true, and people with penises deserve to experience new, exciting kinds of pleasure too.
BUT REALLY, IT’S THE CLIMB
We hope you’ve got some new erotic inspiration and are ready to check an orgasm or two off your bucket list, but before you go, remember something very important: the journey is always more important the destination. You are not a human orgasm vending machine. Pressing the right buttons won’t magically make you feel a certain way. And, hear us loudly: that’s okay! That’s normal!
While we hope you enjoy intimate exploration, please don’t pressure yourself or get disappointed if you don’t experience a particular kind of orgasm. That just means you know where to place your focus and it allows you to ask for more of what you do enjoy.
A whopping *93% of enjoy clitoral stimulation during sex. In fact, it is the most preferred type of erotic stimulation by far and can result in powerful clitoral orgasms. Since your partner has such a great pleasure center, it’s important to know how to work with it!
*Female Sexual Pleasure Study, Attitudes and Usage, June 2019
First and foremost, we can’t stress enough the importance of using a good lube. Always, friends: lube, lube, lube it up. Even during solo play, adding some extra moisture to your most sensitive areas is going to give you a better experience. It can eliminate potentially painful friction and enhance sensations.
Next, start slow. The clitoris is mainly made up of erectile tissue, which means it takes a little time to become fully aroused. This is why foreplay is necessary! You can even try stroking around the organ a bit before directly stimulating the glans clitoris; this often helps build arousal.
We surveyed more than 1,000 people with vulvas about the specific kind of stimulation they like on their clitoris, and here’s what they had to say:
- 61% prefer a sucking motion or oral sex.
- 58% prefer pulsing or vibrating.
- 54% prefer an up-and-down stroking motion on top of the glans.
- 50% prefer circle or oval strokes around the glans.
- 45% prefer a side-to-side motion.
- 41% prefer strokes in wide circles or ovals.
- 32% prefer pushing in one spot.
- 26% prefer flicking or thrusting.
- 21% prefer tapping.
- 13% prefer pinching.
- 12% prefer a diagonal motion.
- 12% prefer biting.
Given that so many people have so many distinct loves, communication between couples is incredibly important. You should be asking what your partner likes!
LET’S GET CLITERATE
Here’s what we know: a whopping *93% of people with vaginas enjoy clitoral stimulation during sex. In fact, it is the most preferred type of erotic stimulation by far. (*Female Sexual Pleasure Study, Attitudes and Usage, June 2019).
In short, if you have a clitoris, or you plan to have sex with someone who has a clitoris, make sure to give it some well-deserved attention.
GET LITERATE ABOUT YOUR CLIT
Just 10 years ago we finally had access to a 3-D image of the entire clitoris. Commonly thought of as just the tiny, hooded glans, (aka “the button”), the clitoris is actually much larger than that. The majority of the structure is internal, made up of the body, the crura, and the bulbs. The body is the internal continuation of the glans. The crura extend from the body to the left and right, wrapping around the vaginal opening. The bulbs extend from the front of the crura, wrapping around the front of the vaginal canal.
They connect at the front of the vaginal canal and are all part of the Clitero Urethral Vaginal Complex aka the G-spot. (You can learn more about G-spot orgasms here.)
The clitoris is the most innervated organ in the human body with more than 8,000 nerve endings bundled into a 10-centimeter large anatomical wonder. It is made up of erectile tissue and becomes enlarged when aroused. Some people liken it to the female equivalent of a penis, but that is incorrect. The clitoris is much more complex than that.
In a study in 2005, the American Urological Association stated “Clitoral pharmacology and histology appear to parallel those of penile tissue, although the clinical impact is vastly different.”
While we hope you enjoy intimate exploration, please don’t pressure yourself or get disappointed if you don’t experience a particular kind of orgasm. That just means you know where to place your focus and it allows you to ask for more of what you do enjoy.
A whopping *93% of enjoy clitoral stimulation during sex. In fact, it is the most preferred type of erotic stimulation by far and can result in powerful clitoral orgasms. Since your partner has such a great pleasure center, it’s important to know how to work with it!
*Female Sexual Pleasure Study, Attitudes and Usage, June 2019
First and foremost, we can’t stress enough the importance of using a good lube. Always, friends: lube, lube, lube it up. Even during solo play, adding some extra moisture to your most sensitive areas is going to give you a better experience. It can eliminate potentially painful friction and enhance sensations.
Next, start slow. The clitoris is mainly made up of erectile tissue, which means it takes a little time to become fully aroused. This is why foreplay is necessary! You can even try stroking around the organ a bit before directly stimulating the glans clitoris; this often helps build arousal.
We surveyed more than 1,000 people with vulvas about the specific kind of stimulation they like on their clitoris, and here’s what they had to say:
- 61% prefer a sucking motion or oral sex.
- 58% prefer pulsing or vibrating.
- 54% prefer an up-and-down stroking motion on top of the glans.
- 50% prefer circle or oval strokes around the glans.
- 45% prefer a side-to-side motion.
- 41% prefer strokes in wide circles or ovals.
- 32% prefer pushing in one spot.
- 26% prefer flicking or thrusting.
- 21% prefer tapping.
- 13% prefer pinching.
- 12% prefer a diagonal motion.
- 12% prefer biting.
Given that so many people have so many distinct loves, communication between couples is incredibly important. You should be asking what your partner likes!
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