041024 CLITORAL ORGASMS

By Lora DiCarlo and posted with her prior permission and, it would appear, heavily reliant on https://www.healthline.com/ for its information.

Can you count on more than one hand how many types of orgasms you’ve had? Not how many times you’ve orgasmed—but the type. If you’re scratching your head, we’ve got some titillating news for you; there are between four and fourteen different kinds of orgasms for people with vaginas, and how many you attempt is up to you

So, you’ve got this powerhouse of pleasure between your legs—you might as well put it to good use! Getting familiar with your own anatomy will benefit you and your sexual partners. The more you understand and articulate what you enjoy, the more fun everyone will have.

First and foremost, we can’t stress enough the importance of using a good lube. Always, friends: lube, lube, lube it up. Even during solo play, adding some extra moisture to your most sensitive areas is going to give you a better experience. It can eliminate potentially painful friction and enhance sensations. Go ahead and squeeze some on.

Next, start slow. The clitoris is mainly made up of erectile tissue, which means it takes a little time to become fully aroused. This is why foreplay is necessary! You can even try stroking around the clitoris a bit before directly stimulating it; this often helps build arousal.

That’s a lot of information, but the bottom line is this: try new things and don’t be afraid to experiment! Different speeds and pressures provide a variety of experiences. We also asked participants about speed and pressure.

Here’s what we learned about the most enjoyable speeds:

• 33% prefer a build-up from a slow to a fast speed.
• 24% prefer the speeds to alternate.
• 23% prefer a medium speed.
• 10% prefer a fast speed.
• 9% prefer a slow speed.

As for the most commonly reported amounts of pressure, we found that:

• 39% prefer a mixture of different amounts of pressure
• 33% prefer medium pressure
• 17% prefer firm pressure
• 12% prefer light pressure

Use this data to inform your explorations. We all get stuck in sexual ruts from time to time. We find something that works for us and stick with it, because well, it works. But just because there’s one type of stimulation that works for you doesn’t mean that’s the only one. Keep exploring and experimenting! 

Whether you’re experimenting with a partner or during solo play, adding adult toys into the mix can spice things up even more.

It might take a bit to find exactly what you enjoy, but when you find something that feels great, keep going! Your body will reward you.